As a Holistic Therapist I see a lot of people who come into my therapy room with a desperate desire to need to relax. Relax because sometimes they have taken on too much at work, because they have taken on too much within their social circles and sometimes because they just can't say NO to their children, partners or anyone else in their lives.
Why does this happen?
I think, usually because people fear of being judged when they use the word NO.
NO is a healthy word
NO is NOT a bad word
NO is setting healthy boundaries
NO is taking care of myself
NO does not make me selfish (quite the opposite actually)
I am not going to sit here and say I never say yes when I don't want to because of course sometimes I do, and we all at times may have done this for one reason or another.
But I am going to say, I definitely say NO more than I say yes now that I am older, have a house, husband and furry baby. If I said yes all the time I would get tired and being tired does not work for me and my business, my clients are not silly and they would cotton on if I am not offering my very best, I would get overwhelmed, so day to day activities would become massive chores that I would not be able to keep on top of , I would end up cancelling on people anyway and when I would socialise I would not be giving them my one hundred per cent attention, so why would I say yes to a meet up in the first place?
When I say no I offer a fantastic service for myself and my clients, my mental health is balanced and stable, I set healthy boundaries, I am present with friends and family and I enjoy life.
My daily mantra is "the more I take care of me, the more I can take care of you".
It is really OK for you (and everyone else around you) to say no at times in order for you to look after yourself, so when you do say yes you can be the best version of you. So don't be afraid of saying that two letter word sometimes, it's good for you.
Thank you for reading x
Why does this happen?
I think, usually because people fear of being judged when they use the word NO.
NO is a healthy word
NO is NOT a bad word
NO is setting healthy boundaries
NO is taking care of myself
NO does not make me selfish (quite the opposite actually)
I am not going to sit here and say I never say yes when I don't want to because of course sometimes I do, and we all at times may have done this for one reason or another.
But I am going to say, I definitely say NO more than I say yes now that I am older, have a house, husband and furry baby. If I said yes all the time I would get tired and being tired does not work for me and my business, my clients are not silly and they would cotton on if I am not offering my very best, I would get overwhelmed, so day to day activities would become massive chores that I would not be able to keep on top of , I would end up cancelling on people anyway and when I would socialise I would not be giving them my one hundred per cent attention, so why would I say yes to a meet up in the first place?
When I say no I offer a fantastic service for myself and my clients, my mental health is balanced and stable, I set healthy boundaries, I am present with friends and family and I enjoy life.
My daily mantra is "the more I take care of me, the more I can take care of you".
It is really OK for you (and everyone else around you) to say no at times in order for you to look after yourself, so when you do say yes you can be the best version of you. So don't be afraid of saying that two letter word sometimes, it's good for you.
Thank you for reading x
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